Does Liking Anal Sex Make You Gay ?

Dear Straight Cis-Gendered Men,

Have you ever asked or wondered if liking Anal Sex or Anal Play make you Gay ?

Well, the Answer is Yes.

The Answer is as Yes as if Masturbating makes your Dicks fall off.

Honey, OF COURSE NOT !

          Though as random and humorous this question can sound, it's true. A lot of men have wondered this, so let's talk about it. I think that this question is really about two things: the idea of being pleasured or even penetrated from behind is somehow demasculinizing, and relations between sex and sexual orientation.

          A lot of men may feel that if they like "it up/in the butt", somehow they're not as masculine anymore, making them "Gay". The thing is know is that the way we use the word "Gay" here is an insult, a harmful stereotype saying that homosexual men are less "manly", always more feminine. Yet no, we have to stop thinking that way, letting internalized homophobia gets in the way of logic. Those who are born with the XY chromosome, therefore in most cases, owning a penis, have a G-spot, the same way as others have it in their vaginas. So Cis-Males, it's okay to enjoy some anal actions during sex, you have a G-spot there, it's completely natural ! Let it not be a guilty pleasure, be free, and embrace your sexuality.

          Now, we should talk about: Sex v.s. Sexual Orientation. What if a Straight Cis-Gendered Male likes anal sex with other men ? Does that make him gay ? No, not if he identifies as one. Here's the thing, I feel like we have labeled sex, gay-sex, lesbian-sex...etc. It can be just sex ! I mean, if a man really likes anal sex, and that he's tired of a woman wearing a strap-on dick or using a dildo himself, maybe he'll want to have sex with another man, who knows ? I mean, there are anal-sex porn actors who are straight for sure, so why is it such a big deal ? Just because a man has sex with another man, does not make him gay. It is his own body, his own sexual experiences. It is his sexual orientation to define. 

          The worst is when someone is actually Gay/Bi/Pan...etc. but just in the closet, and he get's outed by someone else after being discovered of his sexual activities. Do not EVER out someone. Don't, because you never know if they're in a safe environment, if they're ready enough, if their family/friends are toxic and dangerous or not. You don't know. Have Respect !