Love Clinic 6.0

          You swung me into my dreams,

and you sang the lullabies.

          Your whispers...

          You gently tuck me in,

into the bed of roses that you've planted.

          Your kisses...

          You. Me. Us.

We're imperfect, we're ugly. Yet us together, it was perfect, it was beautiful.

Flowers bloom, and we were happy.

          What happened ?

          Love 601 : Roses with Thorns.

          Roses grow, and Roses die. The flower shed, but the thorns remains. We are too young, we don't know how to love. Romance just isn't realistic. You're not mature enough darling. You promised roses, but all they are left, are the thorns, stabbing into my skin. You held me, whispered. You left, you've escaped, and all I have are memories. It's not fair. It's not...

          Break Up 601 : Get Over It, Move On.

          How can we move on ? And just get over it ? Does it mean nothing ? Should it mean nothing ? Why did we even bother ? What am I suppose to do now ? Sometimes, we can't move on, we can only bury. We want to bury it, until we forget, until we forgive. It'll take time, and we're making progress. Step by step, day by day, we're just getting stronger. We can do this.

Love Clinic 5.0

          I've always found it interesting to think of the fact that it needs both individual to bring a relationship to life, yet it'll only take one to end it... Love is an ocean, that drowns us all. Losing control, letting the waves of emotions swarm us in and out, in and out... again, again, and again. There's no escape.

          Love 501 : Sometimes Love's just Not Enough...

          We're so fixed on the idea of love: the eternal love, and the unconditional love. Yet sometimes, it's not forever, it's not pretty, nor is it unconditional. And that's the thing about love, it drowns us in and make us forget about reality. But then just when you're finally happy and at peace, a wave comes and slams you into a rock, setting you back into the harsh reality. Love is cruel, and painful. I've always known, nothing can be that beautiful. Sometimes, love is just not enough, not enough to be happy. But as human beings, we'll be forever on the quest of finding love, and longing for that love. We'll get better, and heal. Then, we'll find the courage to trust the ocean again, to walk our way into the cool, peaceful water, relaxing ourselves, and hoping, and dreaming for the love story we've been waiting for. That's life.

          Break Up 501 : Gone.

          It's over, it's really over. Is it really ? That's it ? But how ? Why ? Why me ?

He/She is gone. The answers are too gone. Break Ups can leave us, wondering, and thinking, for days and nights. But we will never really know, or will we truly understand, because we still love. It's not over for us, so we can sometimes never understand why or how it is for them. We can just sit here, and question ourselves, question reality, question the memories, and question the feelings. It's painful, it's difficult, and it feels like the end. But life moves on, and you know you have to as well. All you need to do, is survive today, and tomorrow, survive another day. All you need to do, is get yourselves through the day. That's strong enough, that's brave enough, that's enough for now. You, are enough. You, will get better, and you'll be okay. Everything will be okay.

Love Clinic 4.0 - Crushes

          Crushes. (countable noun.) - an informal feeling of love or admiration for someone, often someone you know you can not have a relationship with.

          We all have crushes, and we can't really control them. We are attracted to certain people, and sometimes no matter how much we repress those feelings, we know deep down, that we want them. It's fascinating how little we can know about our crushes, yet still developing these complicated, beautiful feelings for them. It's the attractions to their smallest details, that makes it even harder for us to stop. It's a fantasy. It truly is, because we forget, we forget the possibilities of their flaws, faults, and mistakes. We are blinded by our feelings, and we no longer see them just as another human being. It's a pre-stage of love I would say, shallow, cheap, and fiction.

          Love 401 - Crushes : Grow Up !

          Most crushes don't get the chance to blossom into a relationship, and when it does, it grows and matures. We have to actually get to know the person, and learn about their flaws. That's how love grows. And we can never have a meaningful relationship unless we grow up, and stop letting our fantasies blind our sense of logic. We need to have the desire to want to know about that person. We need to sometimes turn off our imagination, to set ourselves back into reality, with that person.

Love Clinic 3.0

          Sometimes in love, there isn't always justice. The talk of fairness is complicated, and should never be discussed to get the other person to treat you better. Love isn't business, the only fairness that you need to think about here, is within yourself. Are you being fair to yourself ? Are you being fair to him/her/they ? Are you being fair to your relationship ?

          When in a relationship, we often can feel like we're not being treated fairly. Yet really, are we being fair ourselves ? Sometimes we give so much, and expect the same. But it's not fair to ourselves that we're giving so much, why are we doing this ? We love, and we want to be loved. Though we need to understand, that when we're in this mindset, love becomes an exchange, that's damaging, and exhausting. And adding all these pressure onto ourselves isn't fair to us either. Also, are we maybe expecting a little too much ? Can we try to understand the other person's love a little more ? How are they expressing their love, that's somehow different or not enough ? When we start to ask ourselves these questions, the problems become clearer, and we now know how to have a healthy conversation about how we can move forward with our relationship. 

          Lastly, are we being fair to our relationships ? Yes, of course we want to bring what we have to the next level, we want to have a even more meaningful relationship. But are we ready ? We need to understand, it takes time, and it really takes two. Stop making yourself do all the work, and expecting to see a difference. The key, is always communication.

          Love 301 : The True Justice in love, is to Listen, Appreciate, and Understand.

          Communication is very important yes, but what we want out of that isn't just blabbing your feelings to each other. We also want to listen, appreciate, and understand. We listen to appreciate, and we appreciate to understand. It's not always about how much we love, it's about the way we love. We all express our love differently, and differences are common in relationships. Some can be scared of differences, but really, have a little faith. Work it out.

          Break Up 301 : Don't Play The Waiting Game.

          I think that sometimes taking a break can be a good idea, though it really depends on the couple. I really do believe that we need to know who we are and what we want before having a healthy and loving relationship. But in all seriousness, don't play the waiting game. You can wait for the person of your dreams come into your life and love you, but don't wait for a person that's already in your life to love you back. It's psychologically damaging, and not fair to you. Unless you want to, they should have no place to tell you to wait. Because love, does not wait. 

          

Love Clinic 2.0

          What I don't understand about love is, how can you love someone even with their flaws and faults ? Now, not saying that you shouldn't love someone who isn't "perfect", but I truly believe that what defines a person is the ideals and flaws that one can have based on his/her actions, thoughts, and motives. I want to find out why people can keeping loving even when the other person's flaws and faults are clearly harmful. Is there a bigger good that we strive to look into ? Or is love just a complicated emotion that's irrational and blinding ? 

          There isn't an answer I could find, not from thinking, not from interviewing my friends who are in a relationship. There seem to be not even a equation formed, and that's why there's no answer. Love is not a formula. Love is, just Love. See, I was born into a family with complicated issues and feelings, sometimes even with toxic twisted ideals, so I strive to find healthier and better relationships in my life. Family is a love I can not escape from, it's a love I can't choose. Yet, even though I understand that we can't choose who we love, can't we choose to love the ones that are "better" for us ? But then again, love sometimes can blind our sense of judgement, making what's "good" and "bad" very debatable. Maybe because I've never been in love, so I'm looking into this issue critically. I only wish that it won't be as complicated when I'm in love with somebody.

          Love 201 : Just because He/She is Broken, doesn't mean You have to be too.

          Sometimes, love can be tiring. Loving someone isn't easy, trust me, I have days where I wish I'm just a cold stone heart bitch. It's messy, it's complicated, because emotions can often reveal and let us discover the worst in ourselves. Yet emotions also bring out the best of us human beings, one of the things that truly make us humans. It's beautiful, but is it worth it ? The worth of a relationship is the impact that it did on you as a person. In my personal opinion, a healthy relationship should be a good influence on each other to make both of them a better person. That's love should be, but it's not what love is. Love doesn't always make us better people, it can sometimes push us over the edge, or even break us. I'm not ever in a position to say whether someone is healthy or not, or if someone is broken or not. But I will say that you shouldn't stop loving them just if/when they're broken, but you should start to love yourself more too. Don't break yourself, because love shouldn't be as exhausting as it can feel. Give yourself a break, and just breathe.

          Break Up 201 : No Need to be "Nice".

          To make it simple, there's only really two general kinds of break-ups, the ones that both agree, and the ones that only one wants the separation. If both agree, it's just the matter of giving each other blessing and taking the time to heal and move on. But it's the ones that only one side wants the break-up that gets messy and complicated. And there's no point to be nice here, let's be clear and see how it is can we ? It's a break up. The nicer you're trying to be, only makes it even harder for them to let go. I'm not saying to rude and harsh, but there's just really no point to sugar coat things anymore. Feelings get hurt one way or the other, and it's often not your job to help them get over you or to move on. If it needs to be done, get it done. It'll be difficult, because you may still care for them, but you have to remember that sometimes separation doesn't mean that the love is dead. Love is never dead.

Love Clinic 1.0

          It's been awhile since I talked about Love and Relationships eh ? Well, as a happily single teenager, I may not have many experience to share, yet I think about love everyday. Plus, maybe I can offer a different perspective on Love since I'm single. So welcome, to Leon's Love Clinic.

          Love 101 : Love doesn't Fade, it's the People that Change.

          I believe that the idea of eternity is a form of perfection, yet us humans are far from perfect. Love is an emotion created by humans that can be sometimes forever and even perfect, yet it's subjective. So love can be perfect, but relationships are very flawed. It's often common that we people who are in relationships wishes for eternity. Though relationships don't tend to last forever, we can still believe that our love can have the chance of eternity. Since emotions are associated with memories, love can be treasured and kept alive as long as the memories are there. My advice for those who are wishing on a forever is, Don't forget the Present. If you dwell on the idea of eternity, you'll forget the present and lose your chances to make the moments/memories that makes up that forever. Because you see, all the future is, is really just what the present has became. Love only changes because of the people. Focus on teach other and the moments you share, and treasure those beautiful, and happy memories.

          Break Up 101 : What's really Difficult about the Break Up, is the Letting Go.

          One of the things that hurts the most after a break up, is that you realize that you no longer have a "we"/"us" to talk about, or to even think about. We all can dwell on the memories created, but we need to know that the reason why we do, is really not just because we miss them, it's also because that we want to lie to ourselves. We intensely grab on the past because we can't accept of what has happened in the present. You may not understand, how a relationship can just end. How from now, his/her laughs, tears, blushes, and emotions/actions in general will no longer be because of you, yet some may only be just about you. But, you need to understand, that the more you look into the past, the more you're letting go of the present. What you need is to let go of the past and face the present and be ready for the future. It's okay to cry, it's okay to take time, but you can't use the forever you wished for your relationship here alone. And when it's time, when you're ready to let go. You'll finally be free.