Love Clinic 3.0

          Sometimes in love, there isn't always justice. The talk of fairness is complicated, and should never be discussed to get the other person to treat you better. Love isn't business, the only fairness that you need to think about here, is within yourself. Are you being fair to yourself ? Are you being fair to him/her/they ? Are you being fair to your relationship ?

          When in a relationship, we often can feel like we're not being treated fairly. Yet really, are we being fair ourselves ? Sometimes we give so much, and expect the same. But it's not fair to ourselves that we're giving so much, why are we doing this ? We love, and we want to be loved. Though we need to understand, that when we're in this mindset, love becomes an exchange, that's damaging, and exhausting. And adding all these pressure onto ourselves isn't fair to us either. Also, are we maybe expecting a little too much ? Can we try to understand the other person's love a little more ? How are they expressing their love, that's somehow different or not enough ? When we start to ask ourselves these questions, the problems become clearer, and we now know how to have a healthy conversation about how we can move forward with our relationship. 

          Lastly, are we being fair to our relationships ? Yes, of course we want to bring what we have to the next level, we want to have a even more meaningful relationship. But are we ready ? We need to understand, it takes time, and it really takes two. Stop making yourself do all the work, and expecting to see a difference. The key, is always communication.

          Love 301 : The True Justice in love, is to Listen, Appreciate, and Understand.

          Communication is very important yes, but what we want out of that isn't just blabbing your feelings to each other. We also want to listen, appreciate, and understand. We listen to appreciate, and we appreciate to understand. It's not always about how much we love, it's about the way we love. We all express our love differently, and differences are common in relationships. Some can be scared of differences, but really, have a little faith. Work it out.

          Break Up 301 : Don't Play The Waiting Game.

          I think that sometimes taking a break can be a good idea, though it really depends on the couple. I really do believe that we need to know who we are and what we want before having a healthy and loving relationship. But in all seriousness, don't play the waiting game. You can wait for the person of your dreams come into your life and love you, but don't wait for a person that's already in your life to love you back. It's psychologically damaging, and not fair to you. Unless you want to, they should have no place to tell you to wait. Because love, does not wait.