Well first, I want to start off saying that I will try really hard not to make this into another one of my Body Postitivity inspirational blog piece. I've done many of those and you all should know how I feel and look on the "Fat-shaming" subject. But, I'm here to talk about the reactions of this viral YouTube video "Dear Fat People" by a YouTuber Nicole Arbour. Because you see, I first had a very strong opinion that is against the message of this video, but my thoughts and views changed after understanding the people's point of views who are for this video.
For those of you who have not watched this video or just does not want to watch it, it's basically of her making fun of fat people and saying that we should fat-shamed people to lose weight. She even said that fat people are just killing themselves, they should stop eating, and that they smell like sausages...etc. Yes, of course she's trying to be funny. And why this video has gone viral is because people got offended by her humor. I think that there's a thin line between being funny and being offensive, and just because someone is trying to use humor to cover something offensive and ugly, doesn't make it okay. But, why this video ? I went and watched some of her other videos and she did the exact same thing. Insulting and mocking people is part of comedy and even though people may get hurt, we as humans love that cheap humor. But why suddenly everyone got so angry !? It's not like she hasn't made videos like this mocking and insulting people. And I'm sure there have been a lot of other comedians who have insulted more people with jokes and cheap humor. Is it true that we humans are just too sensitive ? Are we becoming more and more sensitive, that we sometimes even face the truth ?
I feel like it's never anyone's right to judge someone else because we don't know what it's like to be them. But the truth is that being bigger and heavier does come with consequences. And I totally understand that some people have eating disorders and health conditions, but are we really just scared of the truth ? I personally know that I was that person who just can't accept the truth that I am fat. It's not that I would lie and say I'm fit, but I would get really upset and simply do nothing. I'm upset because it hurts, but it's a truth I could never swallow in and actually do something about it. I've becoming more honest with myself this year and accepted that I am fat, but also fabulous. I am fat, but that doesn't change who I am or mean that I'm worth any less. And I am trying to eat healthier and watch my weight weekly. Truth is never easy to take in, but it's needed for us to know what's real and what's not.
That's why I don't even get offended by people calling me "fat" or "faggot" anymore, because it is true. I am fat and I am gay. Those words don't mean anything if I don't give them the power to hurt me. I feel like we as a society have become so scared of judgement, hate, shame and worse, the truth. Rightfully so, because they are scary and hurtful. But we need to not get offended by every single word that everyone say. We should know that we deserve better and we can't always change everyone. Let them say what they want and we will do what makes us happy. Basically, more forgiveness less fighting. After all, aren't we just like those who used hate to hurt us when we try to use hate to fight back ?
I've actually read a theory somewhere that got me thinking. She wrote that she as a woman trying to love her body is exhausting. People try to tell everyone that they're perfect the way they are and we never believe them yet it's kinda nice to hear that from people who loves us. And I agree, loving myself can be tiring. It's unrealistic too, to tell myself everyday that I'm beautiful and perfect the way I am. Because the fact is that none of us are perfect, and even though it's great to appreciate ourselves, we can always improve and be better. That's how we grow and develop ourselves as human beings. We should love ourselves and encourage ourselves to a point, and know that it should come naturally. We shouldn't need to try to love our bodies, we should just love ourselves with our good days and bad days.
So dear Fat people :
If you're overweight, you are fat. That's the truth, and I'm on your team too don't worry. It sucks, but health is not determined by appearances or scales, so you do whatever you can to be healthy and happy. Love yourselves and honey, "Fat" is just a word. Don't give it the power to hurt you. Own the word, love the word, and if you're gonna be the word, be the word proudly.
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